Mummy dearest...

Dear Beloved mother,

With time passed, I am afraid you underestimate how marriage rules apply to all of your daughters and how we are subjected to society's norm on how to cope with being a good wife.

While protecting ourself against any potential harm like a loyal and faithful husband. How I wish the times were simple when we could relax and let the partner bring back the bacon and we concentrated on the kids. But kids do grow up eventually. I am not the housewife type because I am ambitious and merciless when it comes to personal goals.

I craved the high life and I have a shopholic bug in me which pushes me to work and have control of my own finances while balancing my family.

I truly advocate that working mothers make better partner because they are pulling their weigh. With the current economic situation and how expensive things cost, any women is forced to face the music that a double income help cope with financial arguments. Parents can afford better things in life like holidays and better education for their kids.

Frugality means NO holidays, eating in and having no money for any entertainment like movies or a trip to the zoo?

Saving all for the kids right?

Mother dearest, organization is such a key in running a household. The " never mind, Never mind" attitude does not cut in anything in life if one do not take control of your life.

Even if you are retired, ridden with illnesses and tired, you have to take care of yourself and eat a proper vegan diet that is varied and highly nutritious with low fat contend. Eating endless amount of eggs and gluten does not mean you are doing the right thing nor condemning meat eaters for their protein intake.

In fact, there is NOTHING wrong with eating meat, as always, it all boils down to how one does not waste food and eat the right thing?

Everyone preaches good eating habits. It is a lifestyle and it is a daily regime.

I am eating for TWO, do not judge me for what you think is right or wrong. I am an adult. You must learn to see that.

I hope you can realize on your own, to appreciate your own daughters and not condemn us for not being the ideal doctors, lawyers or whatever that you think is worth respecting.

For years, I have fought with myself to get your approval but in the end, I seek personal enlightenment. I seek self actualization and coming to be a type of person I would be proud to be.

I am now, my own person.

Seeking not the approval of my partner, or my in-laws, or my peer or my own parents.

I seek only my self satisfaction.

I set my own benchmark.

Last but not least, I will pray for your health and happyness. No matter what, I cherish each moment we get to spend together and the time you spend with your grandchildren.

Love always

Charlene