Defusing little tantrums

Now tantrums of little ones can make or break a mother's patience and love for their child.

For whatever reasons the child refuse to listen or do what they are supposed to do, one must never give up to seek a working solution.

We have a lot of help in our house currently, thank goodness. But the downside is Lya is getting way too much attention and she tends to throw little tantrums because she simply is having TOO much fun.

Like getting her to go to bed and she wants to play with the Listerine Bottle, Yes, why the Listerine bottle? I have no idea? Maybe it;s the green liquid, or the bottle itself?

She will cry endlessly till she gets what she wants. This is the tricky part. Any expert who tells you not to let the child get their ways, must be kidding. If she cries endlessly , ie, sobbing loudly, she ends up tired, red eyes and could even end up traumatized by the ordeal.

Traumatized in a way that's it is bed time and she needs to relax and go to bed. The worst part of handling 2 yrs old is they can;t communicate properly. They can;t talk and tell you what they want.

How do i defuse this? I realized my tone of voice is critical not to make her cry even louder, ie, talk to Lya in a soft, speaking tone.

I usually just talk to her and ask her what she wants, she still have the Listerine bottle in her hands. But I will go get the next best thing, her daddy's drinking bottle, the raspberry flavor water. Dun judge me, I know the sugar kick is bad for her but she simply adores it.

I made the switch and she is playing with the bottle.

The funny part is, a few nites ago, she was screaming murder for the empty Listerine bottle and she practically hugged the empty bottle to sleep!

No matter what the experts tell you to do in such situation, I somehow find it is best to get to know and understand your own child. She thoroughly understands what I am saying and I level with her , at every tantrums, on why and what she can and cannot do.

Like hitting her grandparents with a stick. Or dodo in that matter.

Or using daddy's laptop to watch her ABC for kids online. Another favorite thing for her.

In the end, I come to a conclusion that she is trying to mimic every single thing that we do. Eat from our bowl, drink from our bowl, play with what we are playing and watch what we are watching.

If imitation is the biggest flattering thing for anyone, then understanding why kids throw senseless and mindless tantrums are all about getting to know your little child.

That is what I have been trying to explain to daddy. He simply thinks Lya is misbehaving but it;s not actually that case in point.

Perhaps I spend the most time with her and I can truly read her mind?

Like with anything in life, it's best not to act too harshly and think before we do anything we regret later. If anything, having children teaches what you are capable of and how humane and how much Love one can have for another person.

It teaches you the things that we take for granted for in life....

and I am still learning...